You know how there are some menu items that chefs would never order because they know too much? Well, the same applies to the world of sex toys.

As a sex educator who reviews pleasure products for a living, there are certain things I’ve learned to avoid, and I’m here to impart that knowledge. Follow along as I detail the top 5 things I would never do so you can not do them, too!

Use Products That Aren't Body-Safe 

First, I will never use pleasure products made from porous materials like PVC, commonly known as jelly rubber. Yes, they're less expensive and can seem like the best budget-friendly option — but trust me — it’s not worth the risk.

Toys made from porous materials can harbor bacteria, mold, and viruses, and can even give you STIs if you share them or use them again after you've been treated for an infection.And no, washing doesn't help. Porous toys absorb pathogens that are impossible to get rid of no matter how much you clean them. 

Learn more: Are PVC Sex Toys Safe?

Before you put anything inside your body, make sure it’s made from non-porous materials like silicone, glass, or stainless steel.

For more about the most popular body-safe sex toy material, check out What is Body-Safe Silicone?

Insert Anything Before I'm Aroused

Second, I will never try to insert anything anywhere unless I am fully aroused. When your body is properly aroused, erectile tissue swells, expands, and lubricates, making penetration feel pleasurable for the receiver. When you're not aroused, insertion can feel painful, uncomfortable, or like nothing at all. 

Shop: Need a little assistance getting aroused? Try Dame Arousal Serum or Sliquid Organics O Gel

Use the Wrong Lube

Silicone-based lubricants are delightfully slippery and long-lasting, but can damage silicone toys. Instead, go for water-based, oil-based, or hybrid lubes to protect the integrity of your silicone sex toys. 

Regardless of sex toy material, it’s not a good idea to use pure coconut oil as lube because it can easily disrupt vaginal pH and clog pores. Perhaps most important, coconut oil can damage or destroy latex barrier methods (like condoms, dental dams, etc.) which can result in STI or pregnancy.

In general, the best lube is lube. Lubricants that are formulated specifically for sex are always better options than cooking oils. 

This last part is more of a personal preference, but I use lube every time, no matter how naturally lubricated I am. Again, this isn’t mandatory, but it can make intimate acts feel much more pleasurable. Penetration, in particular, is made much more comfortable if you lube up first. Remember: wetter is better!

Shop: Browse all lubricants here! 

Go Flare-Free

Repeat after me: I will never insert anything anally unless it has a flared base! 

Anything you use for anal pleasure must have a flared base, meaning the bottom is significantly wider than the rest of the toy. The base can be circular, square, or anchor (T-bar) shaped — as long as it’s flared.

Why? If you insert a toy that doesn’t have a flared base, there’s a chance it might not come back out. Avoid an uncomfortable trip to the ER by using anal-safe toys only!  

Buy Sex Toys On Amazon

Finally, I will never buy sex toys on Amazon. 

Amazon is notorious for selling toys made from toxic materials, as well as counterfeit toys that look like the real deal, but are actually low quality knockoffs. In fact, many popular sex toy brands (like njoy, for example) do not permit their products to be sold on Amazon to protect people from being duped into buying fake toys. 

If you find a cheap pleasure product on Amazon and think the price looks too good to be true, that’s because it is. 

Learn more: Why You Shouldn't Buy Sex Toys on Amazon

Final Thoughts 

Now that you’ve seen my personal list of no-nos, maybe you’re inspired to come up with a list of your own! What are your personal sexual boundaries, your must-haves and must never dos? 

If you have any questions about my rules (or your own!), just send me an email at sarah@delicto.com and I’ll be happy to help. In the meantime, don’t forget to follow Delicto on TikTok and Instagram for more sex education, toy reviews, and how-to guides.