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Dame Pom Review

Sarah Riccio

Meet the Dame Pom, a uniquely flexible vibrator for all bodies. And when I say flexible, I mean this toy has no internal body, which means you can cup it, squeeze it, and otherwise mold it to your liking!

Intrigued? Keep reading my Dame Pom review for all the details.

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Dame Pom: Quick Stats

No time for the full review? Take a quick scan of the essential info below. You can also scroll to the end for a list of pros and cons.

  • Flexible, gender-inclusive vibrator 
  • Rechargeable 
  • Waterproof 
  • Medical-grade silicone 
  • 5 vibration patterns & 5 intensity levels 
  • External stimulation only 
  • Whisper-quiet 
  • Rumbly sensations 
  • Charge time: 2 hours 
  • Run time: 1 hour on highest setting
  • 3.23” x 2.2” x 1.2”
  • Jade and plum color options 
  • 3-year warranty

 Dame Pom vibrator unboxing

Unboxing the Dame Pom

The Dame Pom comes in a cute cardboard box with some useful information printed on it, including a sneak peek of what the Pom looks like. And inside that box is another, sturdier box that can definitely be repurposed for easy toy storage

The Pom comes packaged with an eye-catching user manual that quite literally illustrates how the Pom works, and all the fun features it has to offer. It also includes a magnetic charger, a cute travel bag for your Pom, and a sticker that features the brand’s logo. 

Even if your toy is brand new and freshly unboxed, I recommend cleaning and charging it before use to ensure you’re working with a fully sanitized and powered-up product. Once you’ve done that, you’re ready to play! 

Dame Pom vibrator

How Does the Dame Pom Work?

The Dame Pom is a flexible, versatile, external vibrator for all bodies. 

It features an ergonomic shape that resembles a bean, with a tapered tip for vulvar stimulation. And when I say it's flexible, I mean it's the most flexible lay-on vibrator I've ever tested.

The Pom's pliability really comes in handy when stroking a penis, as it fits perfectly in the palm of a hand, and can be gently bent to hug the shaft. Remember: this is an external vibrator that can be used anywhere on your body, so take some time to explore what feels good. 

Construction and Design

The Pom is about 3-inches long by 2-inches wide, and fits comfortably in the palm of my hand. This is a great option if you're looking for a compact toy that’s easy to maneuver. It has a unique, ergonomic shape that delivers broad or targeted stimulation, depending on how you hold it. 

You might see the Pom advertised as a clitoral vibrator — and make no mistake — it certainly is that. But it can be used in a wide variety of ways, so people with penises are encouraged to get in on the action, too. 


The Pom is made from 100% medical-grade silicone, which means it’s free from phthalates, latex, plasticizers, and BPAs. It’s seamlessly smooth and gentle on the skin, and fully waterproof (so feel free to use it in the bath or shower). 

Learn: How To Clean Your Sex Toys

Dame Pom vibrator controls


The Pom has an intuitive design, and it's pretty easy to navigate its vibration settings. It features five patterns and five levels of intensity for a total of 10 vibration modes to explore. 

To turn it on, just press and hold the large button on the back of the toy for two seconds. To adjust the intensity, use the + and - buttons on the other side of the toy. The power button can change the pattern too, which is done by giving it a quick tap instead of holding it down. 

My Personal Experience with the Pom

Personally, I'm impressed by how powerful this little toy’s vibration can get. But I think folks who prefer gentle, less intense stimulation might be particularly compatible with the Pom because it offers very soft and sensual vibes on its lower settings. 

Overall, I had a great time testing the Pom. Its shape and flexibility make it so versatile, and offer a nice departure from vibrating wands and bullets. It’s great for solo sessions and partnered play of all kinds, which gives you some good bang for your buck.

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Dame Pom vibrator back side

Should I Buy the Dame Pom? 

Now let’s recap the Pom's perks and potential pitfalls to help you decide if it’s the best fit for you. There’s a lot to like about this toy, so let’s start with the good stuff. 

Dame Pom Pros

It's flexible

This is one very flexible vibrator, making it great for cupping, stroking, and massaging different parts of the body. Because the Pom fits perfectly in the palm, it becomes like a vibrating extension of your own hand, which lends itself well to solo and partnered play alike.

It's great for clitoral stimulation

The Pom is especially well-suited to clitoral stimulation. Its unstructured body and bean-like shape snugly hug the vulva, while the firmer, tapered tip provides more focused pressure on the clit. 

It's versatile

This is a toy for every body! Whether you're interested in nipple play, penis play, or just vibration in general, the Pom does it all. I also love the variety of vibration patterns and intensity settings because it offers fun ways to switch it up and keep your body guessing.

It's harness compatible

The Pom is great for strap on play because it can be slipped into a harness to enhance sensation for the wearer. Again, its shape so easily conforms to the vulva, so it does a nice job of staying in place as you thrust! 

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Dame Pom flexible vibrator

Dame Pom Potential Cons

So, what’s not to love about the Dame Pom? 

It's not super strong

This is a compact toy that doesn't have the motor strength of some of the larger vibrators. If power is your priority, I suggest taking a look at wand-style vibes

The buttons are a bit sensitive

One possible concern about the Dame Pom is the sensitivity of the intensity control buttons. This may not be an issue during solo play or PIV sex, but can cause an unintended change in vibration strength while thrusting during strap-on play. 

Dame Pom vibrator tip

 Final Thoughts

That’s it from me! If you have any questions about the Pom or any other toy, feel free to email me at info@delicto.com, or request a consultation for personalized sex toy recommendations.

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Can I use silicone-based lube with the Dame Pom?

Silicone-based lubricant is not compatible with silicone toys, and the Pom is no exception. Water-based lubes are safe to use and won't damage the surface of the toy. 

How long is the Dame Pom battery life?

When the Pom is 100% charged, it can run for one hour on its highest setting. If you use lower settings, it’ll likely run for more than one consecutive hour. The Pom takes approximately two hours to fully recharge. 

How do you clean the Dame Pom?

The Pom is waterproof, and can be washed with mild soap and warm water. You can also spray the Pom down with a toy cleaner, rinse it well, and allow it to air dry. 

Is the Dame Pom loud?

The Dame Pom is as discreet and quiet as they come. Even on its highest setting, the Pom is whisper-quiet. 

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