How To Make A Woman Squirt

How To Make Someone Squirt

Rose MacDowell

If you haven't done it, chances are you want to. And if you have done it, chances are you want to do it again. And again. 

We're talking of course about squirting, that semi-mythical sex act that results in soaked sheets and unabashed feelings of accomplishment for both the giver and receiver. But as many of us can attest to, squirting doesn't always come easy, leading to the frustrated assumption that we can't do it, unlike everyone on the internet (or so it seems). 

Never fear. In this quick guide, we detail the essential steps to making a vulva-owner squirt, from pre-game tips to step-by-step instructions for making it rain.  

How To Make A Woman Squirt 

You've watched videos about squirting, done some reading, and maybe even tried it a few times. If you're still not sure how to make the magic happen, don't give up. The following tricks can help you feel confident and prepared   and quite literally get the juices flowing.


A dehydrated partner is less likely to have enough fluid on board to squirt. Before you get started, offer her plenty of ice water or her favorite beverage   and partake yourself while you're at it! Making a woman squirt can be a bit athletic, so make sure you have plenty to drink, as well.

Learn: What Is Squirt?

Squirtproof the bed

Or sofa, rug, or chaise lounge. No matter where you plan to get busy, prepare for success by laying down a towel, sex blanket, or other water resistant fabric. The average female ejaculation results in between 0.3 milliliters to 150 milliliters of fluid, so batten down the hatches in case of a Category 5. 

Foreplay, foreplay, and more foreplay

Remember that arousal happens in the mind first. Plant the seeds of pleasure in your partner's mind well in advance. Let them know how much you're looking forward to a session together, reassure them, compliment them, and help them feel comfortable before it's time to play. 

Learn more: What Is Foreplay?

Take your time

When it's time for the main event, don't rush. Focus on arousing your partner, making sure she's lubricated and fully ready to receive. If you're not sure if she's ready, ask her. Encourage her to communicate her needs openly, with no pressure or fear of judgment. 

Know your technique

Enter your partner's vagina with your middle two fingers. Hook the tips of your fingers into the G-spot, that spongy region about two inches inside the vagina on the front wall (AKA the belly button side).

Make a quick, light, come-here motion while pressing your palm into the top of the vagina or directly into the clitoris. It can take a little trial and error to find the pressure and speed that feel right, but when you do, don't stop.

Maintain that same energy until the G-spots feels engorged and your partner begins to tense her muscles. At this point, you can either speed up, remove our fingers when you feel her start to squirt, or maintain stimulation exactly as it is. Again, it's all about experimenting and seeing what works best for her. 

Use your arm

Think of your entire arm, from the top of your shoulder to the tips of your fingers, as one tool. If you centralize all movement to just your fingers and wrist, you probably won't make it to the finish line. You'll get tired much more quickly than if you use all the muscles in your arm to create fluid movement.

Listen to your partner

No matter what you may have seen in a video, let her guide you. If she says it feels too fast, slow down. If it's too gentle, add pressure. If she wants to stop and try again later, you know what to do.

Make sure she knows that you hear her, and will do whatever makes her most comfortable. 

Add toys to the equation

Toys can make a world of difference, especially those designed for deep G-spot massage. You'll want to look for a curved toy with a rounded end or bulbous head. Some G-spot toys vibrate, while others rely solely on the heft of the material to create intensely stimulating pressure.

Two of my favorite G-spot toys include the Pillow Talk Sassy G-spot Vibrator and the njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Wand. You can also browse our entire collection of G-spot vibrators.    

No expectations

Finally, foster an environment in which your partner feels completely safe to relax and let go. You may have a perfect technique, but if she feels self-conscious or nervous about disappointing you, her experience and yours will be less than stellar.

Make it clear that there's no pressure to squirt, today or any day. Like all kinds of sex, female ejaculation is a journey, not a destination. Experimenting together is, or should be, a joy in itself.

Let her know that, no matter what, she can't disappoint you. You're open to anything, and ready to try again — or not, if that's what she prefers. Help your partner feel confident, supported, and excited for whatever happens, and more than likely, you'll both be rewarded.