Want to give a great blowjob but don't know how? Maybe you've never played the skin flute before or your oral skills could use a quick brush-up. Either way, I'm here to help.

I'll tell you how to give a blowjob that will make knees tremble, hearts race, and eyes roll back in ecstacy. We'll discuss ways to bat down your gag reflex and incorporate testicle stimulation for a spine-tingling climax that ignites every nerve.  

Ready? Here we blow!

How to Give a Good Blowjob

Have fun

The first rule of a great blowjob is to have a good time. That includes both of you! A blowjob can be entertaining, a way to make sex more frisky and lighthearted. Don't take yourself — or the penis — too seriously.

Try playing with it, teasing it, topping it with whipped cream and sprinkles. A blowjob can be an opportunity to bring joy and humor to sex, along with intense pleasure. Look at it, rub it against your cheek, stroke it up and down with massage oil before engulfing it with your mouth.

What are other ways to have fun with your partner's penis? Here are a few ideas:

• Trail kisses along the sides
• Blow on it gently
• Nuzzle it
• Talk to it ("We like that, don't we?")
• Give it a nickname
• Rub the head against your lips like a tube of lip balm
• Flicker the tip of your tongue all over it

Above all, don't be afraid to laugh. Fun blowjobs are good blowjobs, no matter what your experience level. 

Take control

Now, you may feel that the penis owner is in control when you give a blowjob, but this is how I see it: the giver of penis stimulation wields the power. You decide what to do and how to do it, unless of course you're in a power exchange dynamic with your partner. But even then, the mouth is yours. And in the end, so is the control. 

How can you display your control in an arousing, playful way?

• Grip the penis firmly with both hands while you suck the tip
• Nibble very lightly along the rim of the head
• Pretend you plan to take a bite while looking up at your partner and smiling
• Put on a blindfold on your partner to focus their attention on the pleasure you're giving them
• Keep their balls cupped securely in your palm 

Taking control during a blowjob can be very empowering for you and very exciting for your partner. Grab the reins and chances are they'll feel a thrilling little zing of fear — along with a newfound respect for your authority.  

Make eye contact 

Eye contact may feel like an advanced blowjob technique reserved for the bravest among us. It may make you feel vulnerable, and may even make you blush. But many partners with penises love it. 

Eye contact feels intimate. It feels personal, close, and connected, which can help boost your bond with your partner. It's hard to beat the intensity of locked eyes during a blowjob, particularly if you've never tried it before. 

New to eye contact during oral play? Start with a few seconds and work your way up as your confidence grows. 

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Use your lips and tongue

Many of us think that a blowjob requires taking a penis into your mouth, but not so. You can give a perfectly divine blowjob with just your lips and tongue. This is an especially useful technique if you have a sensitive gag reflex or otherwise prefer to keep the penis outside of your mouth.

Not sure how to put your lips and tongue to good use? Try these tips:

• Keep your lips wet for maximum glide
• Keeping them soft, purse your lips and slip them over the tip of the penis, using an up and down motion to apply suction and light friction
• Lick the penis from the base to the tip like an ice cream cone
• Slide the shaft of the penis back and forth across your extended tongue
• Make out with the penis from top to bottom
• Slide your lips up one side and down the other
• Lick around the head using a continual circle motion

Invite the testicles to play

Simultaneous stimulation of the testicles can make a good blowjob phenomenal. Not every partner is into it, but if yours is, testicle stimulation can offer multiple ways to maximize pleasure.  

What can you do to the testicles? Here are some popular ways to play ball:

• Lick them very lightly up the center
• Take one gently in your mouth
• Slide your wet lips over them
• Lick around them
• Lick and kiss them all over while stroking the thighs with your hands
• Touch them with a vibrating toy to deliver deep, penetrating stimulation  

For more : How to Stimulate the Testicles

Go deep

Once you've mastered the basics, you can consider going a bit deeper. Deep throat is usually best accomplished with your partner on their back while you face their feet. This position allows the penis to follow the natural slope of your throat and slide back more easily. 

Start by slicking up the penis with saliva for a good glide. Going slowly, take a deep breath and focus on relaxing your throat muscles. Slide the penis toward the back of your throat, gently guiding it past the back of your tongue.

When the penis reaches your throat, it may feel as if it won't go any further. With just a little effort, it should slide past this point and into your throat. You can repeat this motion or do it just once or twice — whatever feels most comfortable for you. 

If you feel like you might gag, keep breathing, open your throat as much as possible, and focus your thoughts on other sensations, such as:

• The feel of your partner's skin
• The temperature of the room
• The sounds your partner makes
• The pleasure you're giving them
• Your own physical arousal

You can also stop, swallow, and try again when you're ready. Don't hesitate to take breaks as needed. Like sex of all kinds, deep throat should be something you take at your own pace. 

And if you do gag, that's okay! Remember, practice helps. You can practice on your partner or with a silicone dildo that has a flared base. This can help you get used to the sensation of an object in your throat and learn what works best for you. 

Learn more: How to Give a Blowjob Without Gagging 

Play with temperature

If you want to switch things up, try temperature play! It's easy: just take a generous sip of something warm, swish it around in your mouth, swallow, then proceed with your blowjob as usual. An ultra-warm mouth can feel extra stimulating and get blood flowing to the penis even faster.

For a thrilling chill, do the same with ice water. You can also let an ice chip melt almost completely in your mouth before licking the penis with your cold tongue. For a more intense, gasp-inducing experience, take the entire penis into your frosty mouth and let shivers run up your partner's spine. 

Learn more: What Is Temperature Play?

Best Penis Toys for Blowjobs

The right toys can make perfect blowjob companions. Here are three of my personal favorites!

Fun Factory Manta If I had to choose one toy to take with me to a blowjob, it would be the Fun Factory Manta. The vibes are deep and rumbly, which means they can penetrate sensitive nerves far and wide.

The Manta's open design makes it a perfect fit for anatomies of all sizes. You can slip it around the base of the penis while you go to Blow Town or tuck it under the scrotum to make your partner's eyes pop. I also adore this toy for clitoral and nipple stimulation. 

ROMP Mosh I love the Mosh for stroking the shaft of the penis while my tongue does its thing on the testicles or I go all-out on the head. The Mosh is open on both ends so it's great for any size penis and its squishy-soft texture feels great. It's budget-friendly, too!

We-Vibe Pivot This vibrating cock ring is perfect for extra stimulation during oral sex and makes a fantastic couples' toy. Slide it down to the base of the penis during a blowjob and then grind against it during intercourse to enjoy deep clitoral vibes.

The Pivot is body-safe and rumbly, plus it's app-controlled so you can use it hands-free from anywhere in the world. 

Check out my complete list of the best toys for blowjobs!