If you're eager to try scissoring but not sure how to actually do it, this guide is for you. In this article, I explore what scissoring is, how to enjoy it comfortably, and which sex toys to add to make it feel even better. Plus, I debunk a few pesky myths about scissoring (spoiler: it's not just for lesbians!). 

Let's get into it. 

What Is Scissoring?

First things first: what is scissoring, anyway?

Scissoring, also known as tribbing, is a type of grinding sex position wherein two people with vulvas rub their genitals together. Any vulva-on-vulva contact, as well as other non-penetrative activities like grinding against body parts, are considered tribbing as well. 

A common misconception about scissoring is that is has to look like two people with their legs wide open and facing away from each other, but that's just one way to do it. In its simplest terms, tribbing is the mutual rubbing and grinding of vulvas, whether it be against a knee, thigh, or anything else that feels good. 

That said, some folks recognize a few subtle differences between scissoring, tribbing, and frottage, which is another form of grinding stimulation. So, let's dive deeper into the details. 

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The difference between scissoring, tribbing, and frottage

While scissoring and tribbing are often used interchangeably to describe the mutual grinding of vulvas, they do have subtle differences. Scissoring typically refers to the specific position where partners interlock their legs in a "scissor-like" way (remember doing this with your Barbies?).

On the other hand, tribbing encompasses a broader range of activities that involve direct genital stimulation without penetration. So, think of tribbing as the umbrella term under which scissoring exists. 

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Finally, the term frottage also refers to the act of grinding stimulation, but has a wider scope and is typically used among gay men. It includes any form of non-penetrative sex where one person rubs against another's body for pleasure. 

Some people keep it simple and just use one of these three terms to refer to all methods of grinding sex, while others like to get specific by honoring the subtle differences. There is no right or wrong answer! Use the term that feels right for you.

That said, here are a few common misconceptions about scissoring that should be left at the door.

Common misconceptions about scissoring

• Only lesbians scissor: This is a stereotype. Anyone can enjoy this intimate act if they find it pleasurable — not just lesbians.
• All lesbians love to scissoring: Scissoring is one of many ways lesbians can enjoy sexual activity. But many lesbians aren't into it! As with any kind of sexual activity, preferences vary from person to person.
• Scissoring always leads to orgasm: While some people might find this position highly stimulating, others may not experience the same level of pleasure. As always, it's important to focus on mutual pleasure rather than reaching an end goal.

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No matter how you like to get your grind on, remember that communication and consent is essential. Everyone experiences pleasure differently, so take your time to find what feels good (and use plenty of lube!). 

How to Perform Scissoring Safely and Comfortably

Ready to give scissoring a try? Here are some tips that can help you enjoy grinding stimulation as safely and comfortably as possible. 

Stretch it out

As with any workout, you don't want to skip the pre-tribbing warm-up. Stretching beforehand can help prevent muscle strain and make the overall experience more seamless and sexy. Focus on stretches that open your hips, thighs, and lower back.

Trust me, your body will thank you later.

Find your groove

It can take some wiggling and re-positioning to right position for scissoring, so take your time. Experiment with different angles and leg positions until you find one that works for both partners. Some popular starting points include missionary scissors, side-by-side scissors, or upright scissors. Get creative!

Slip and slide

Lube is essential for any sex act, but scissoring in particular.

Lots of grinding means lots of friction, so be sure to keep yourselves well lubricated, and reapply as needed. A water-based lubricant typically offers a more realistic feel and is safe to use with latex barriers and silicone sex toys, while silicone-based lubes tend to feel more slippery and last longer. 

Popular Positions For Successful Scissoring

Not sure where to start with scissoring? Don't sweat it! Here are some fun and popular tribbing methods to try. 

Missionary Scissoring

This classic position looks just like PIV missionary, but without the penetration. In this position, partners grind against each other's vulva or thigh, while enjoying a romantic face-to-face embrace.

For extra stimulation, try slipping a lay-on vibrator between vulvas!  

Side-by-side Scissoring

In this position, both partners lie on their sides facing each other, with legs intertwined at the knees or ankles, and vulvas pressed into each other's thighs. They can then rock back and forth in unison, and use their free hands to use a vibrator for added stimulation. 

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Upright Scissors

For this one, one partner sits in the other's lap with their faces pointing in the same direction. From there, the person on top grinds their backside into their partner's vulva, while the person on bottom reaches in front to stimulate their partner's clitoris with fingers or a vibrator.

Think of it as a seated reverse cowgirl position for tribbing!

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Final Thoughts

Now that you know what scissoring is and how to do it, you're well on your way to a good time. Just be sure to communicate, use plenty of lube, and take your time to find what feels good.  

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