Pregnancy is a time of exciting physical, mental, and emotional change. Your sex drive may increase, decrease, or whipsaw up and down as your pregnancy progresses. In those moments when the urge strikes, you may be tempted to reach for the trusty Magic Wand in your nightstand.
But are vibrators safe to use during pregnancy? What if you're high risk? Is deep internal stimulation okay?
Read on. We'll discuss everything you need to know about using vibrators when you're pregnant, including which designs are most comfortable, materials to avoid, and why orgasms can be even better with a bun in the oven.
Is It Safe To Masturbate When Pregnant?
As long as you aren't experiencing a high-risk pregnancy and have been cleared by your doctor for sex, masturbation during pregnancy is generally considered safe and healthy.
It's a common misconception that masturbation can harm the baby or cause premature labor, but there is no evidence to support this. In fact, masturbation can benefit pregnant women by helping to relieve stress and anxiety, increase blood flow, and promote better sleep.
Learn more: 6 Reasons Why You Should Masturbate
Research shows that sexual activity during pregnancy, including masturbation, can have positive physical and psychological effects. Masturbation can help to reduce pelvic pain and discomfort, improve your mood and self-esteem, and give you a sense of connection with your body.
There are health benefits for the baby, too. Regular sex during pregnancy has been associated with a lower risk of preterm birth and higher birth weight. If you have a low-risk pregnancy, masturbation is safe and healthy, and can even provide benefits for both you and your baby.
Are Vibrators Safe During Pregnancy?
With a few precautions, you can enjoy using your vibrator all the way through your pregnancy. And when we say enjoy, we mean both inside and out.
Before we go further, a caveat: using a vibrator during a normal pregnancy carries no known risks to you or your fetus. But it's important to listen to your body and avoid any sexual activity that causes discomfort or pain, including excessive pressure on the cervix.
Always consult your doctor if you have questions or feel anything unusual, and don't masturbate or have sex with a partner if your pregnancy is high risk unless you talk to your doctor first.
How to Use a Vibrator During Pregnancy
Choose a body-safe toy
Pick a high-quality vibrator made from non-porous materials that don't contain potentially toxic chemicals. Body-safe toy materials include:
- Pure silicone. Pure silicone is non-toxic and safe for use in and on the body. Steer clear of silicone blends, which may contain porous materials
- Stainless steel. Stainless steel is smooth, safe for internal and external use, and can be heated up with warm water
- Borosilicate glass. This type of glass is not only non-toxic, it's extremely difficult to break
- ABS plastic. ABS plastic is non-porous and safe for internal and external use
Learn more: Are ABS Plastic Sex Toys Safe?
Avoid materials that aren't body-safe, such as:
- PVC, or polyvinyl chloride. PVC is porous, absorbs bacteria, and may contain toxic chemicals
- TPE, or thermoplastic elastomer. While this material does not generally contain toxic chemicals and is safe when used in penis toys like strokers, it does absorb bacteria and is not safe to use inside the body or on the vulva
- Rubber. Rubber is porous and absorbs odors and bacteria
- Porous plastics. Use non-porous ABS plastic only
Learn more: Are PVC Sex Toys Safe?
Clean your toy before and after
Clean your vibrator before and after use, every time. Cleaning helps to remove bacteria, dust, and particles of lubricant and body fluids. This helps to prevent pH imbalance, yeast infections, and irritation.
If your vibrator is waterproof, use mild soap and water or toy cleaner. If it isn't waterproof, wipe it down carefully with toy cleaner and a damp cloth, removing all traces of cleaner and letting the toy dry before you use it.
Learn more: How To Clean Sex Toys
Finding a comfortable and relaxing position is always important during solo play, and even more so when you're pregnant. Some of us prefer to lie on our sides, while others would rather sit or stand. Notice if you feel pressure or discomfort and adjust accordingly.
If you have trouble getting into a comfortable position, try using a body pillow or firm wedge pillow specifically designed to be used during sex. These can help to support your back and reduce pressure on your hips and belly.
Just add lube
We're big fans of lube during play of all kinds, but especially during pregnancy. Lube reduces friction, increases pleasure and helps a toy glide more smoothly over the skin. It can also prevent chafing or tearing of sensitive skin, which is especially important during pregnancy when the vulva and vagina may be more prone to irritation.
Look for lubes with simple, natural ingredients that are safe for use with silicone toys and less likely to cause vaginal irritation. We like water-based formulas like Good Clean Love Bionude Lubricant and hybrid blends like Naked Silk.
Learn more: How To Choose A Lube
Which Vibrators Are Best During Pregnancy?
Pregnancy can make solo play challenging. What used to be an easy reach is now a bit trickier, or your hand and wrist get tired more easily. To simplify shopping for the right vibrator to use during pregnancy, we've put together a list of the best sex toys to use during pregnancy.
Best Grinding Toys
Vibepad and Vibepad 2 Two of our favorite vibrators for pregnancy are completely hands-free except for an easy-to-operate remote. Even better? All you have to do is (literally) sit on them, relax, and enjoy.
The Vibepad is an oval pad with smooth, vibrating arches designed for grinding stimulation. The Vibepad 2 has the aforementioned arches, along with a warming feature and flickering silicone tongue for clitoral stimulation. And both share our top spot on this list.
Best Vibrating Wands
Dame Com This gorgeous, waterproof wand has an ergonomic handle that makes maneuvering in different positions easier. Dame toys are known for their gentler lower settings (perfect for the more sensitive among us) and deep, rumbly vibes that stimulate the entire clitoral network.
Le Wand Petite Smaller and lighter than the iconic Le Wand, this pregnancy-friendly vibrator boasts a flexible neck and rumbly stimulation. It's also compatible with multiple head covers and attachments, which can turn this beauty into an G-spot stimulator or rabbit vibe.
For a closer look, check out our Le Wand Petite Review
Best G-Spot Vibrator
Pillow Talk Sassy Look up G-spot in the (imaginary) Delicto dictionary and you'll see a picture of the Pillow Talk Sassy Vibrator. This perfectly curved, perfectly rumbly toy has a slightly girthy, nerve-stretching head designed for deep G-spot massage. And it pulls double duty as an excellent clitoral stimulator.
Best Vibrating Dildo
Femme Funn Turbo Shaft For penetration with a very pleasurable twist, we love the Femme Funn Turbo Shaft Vibrating Dildo. This semi-realistic toy rotates 360 degrees to stimulate every sensitive nerve in its path. At 7.7 inches in insertable length and 1.6 inches in diameter, the Turbo Shaft delivers that blissful "filled up" feeling — and it's quiet to boot.
For all the details, check out our Femme Funn Turbo Shaft Review
Best Lay-on Vibrator
Dame Pom Soft and flexible with no internal structure, the Dame Pom is perfect for solo play while pregnant. You can lie on it, grind on it, use it on your nipples, or slip it between bodies during sex with a partner. The Pom is made from smooth, body-safe silicone, and is one of our favorite versatile vibes.
Watch our Dam Pom Vibrator Review
Best Rabbit Vibrator
Lelo Ina 3 Rabbit vibrators can be hit or miss when it comes to a comfortable fit, but the Ina 3 feels positively customized. This ultra-smooth, luxe toy features a deliciously girthy G-spot stimulator and a flexible clitoral stimulator that doesn't press too hard into your sensitive bits. It also has a stunning array of settings and is super-quiet for distraction-free pleasure.
For lots more info: Lelo Ina 3 Rabbit Vibrator Review