From a Magic Wand to you wearing nothing but a big red bow, an intimate gift is as personal as it gets. Intimate items practically have their own holiday on Valentine's Day, but make great gifts no matter the occasion.
No longer taboo, intimate gifts like sex toys have gone unabashedly mainstream, and are now common choices for:
- Romantic partners
- Friends with benefits
- Close relatives
- Newly single friends
- Self-care givers interested in exploring their sexuality
- Any good friend who appreciates fun gifts with a little edge
Two other great things about intimate gifts? They can be purchased online and are delivered in discreet packaging, so nosy neighbors or roomies will be none the wiser.
If you’re not sure what kind of sex toys to buy (or for whom!), read on. This guide covers everything you need to know about giving the gift of pleasure, including the best options for toy newcomers, experts, and everyone in between.
How To Gift Sex Toys
Before you begin shopping for all the nice and naughty people on your list, think about who you’re buying for. What’s their experience level? Are they single or partnered? Would they prefer a toy with lots of bells and whistles, or something with a straightforward design?
When it comes to sex toys, the more you know about the person you’re buying for, the better.
Who Am I Buying For?
Sex toys make great gifts for boyfriends, girlfriends, best friends, and anyone in your life who appreciates a little, well, intimate self-care. The level of intimacy you share with each person should inform the type of toy you choose.
If you're buying for your partner, the options are practically endless! Vibrators, plugs, prostate toys — you can feel comfortable picking anything you think your partner would like to explore.
If you don’t know what they might like, that’s great, too. Sex toy shopping together can be a sexy intimacy building experience, and is a fantastic opportunity to learn what your lover has been eager to try.
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A best friend
For many of us, our bestie’s sexual satisfaction is almost as important as our own. Consider gifiting them something with a solid reputation that they’ve likely heard of before, like the Magic Wand or njoy Pure Wand. The card practically writes itself: “Dear bestie, enjoy a toy that’s as tried and true as our friendship. Happy orgasming ttys <3.”
If you’re not comfortable picking out a specific sex toy but still want to encourage your BFF’s sexual exploration, a gift card does the trick every time.
A cool acquaintance
Maybe you have a favorite co-worker or gym buddy with whom you share a blossoming friendship, and you think they’d appreciate a pleasure product as a gift. Go for a massage candle, sex education books, a feather teaser — something that both respects the newness of your relationship and gives a nod to your growing bond.
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What’s Their Experience Level?
If the person you're shopping for has never used a sex toy, newcomer-friendly options should be at the top of your list. Conversely, you'll want to wow them if they already know a thing or two about sexy self-pleasure!
Take a look at the best toys for beginners and experts alike.
Sex toy beginners
If your giftee is new to sex toys, start with popular, easy-to-use options. For women and those with a vulva, a cute bullet vibrator or vibrating wand is a safe bet. If they have a penis, a stroker that can be used for solo sessions or partnered play is a great way to go.
We-Vibe Tango X. With its sleek, red body and rumbly vibes, the Tango X from We-Vibe is the perfect giftable bullet. This discreet, quiet toy is about the size of a lipstick, but it packs a very pleasurable punch.
Dame Zee. This bright and buzzy vibe is stylish and budget-friendly, making it a perfect stocking-stuffer! The Zee is also rechargeable, quiet, and perfect for travel.
Le Wand Chrome Bullet. Looking for a luxury toy without a luxury price tag? The Le Wand Chrome Bullet is pretty, powerful, and comes in four luscious colors for a little holiday bling.
Femme Funn Ultra Wand Mini. Easy to hold and gorgeous to look at, this wand makes a fantastic gift for all experience levels. Its mini size makes it an especially good choice for beginners who aren't ready for a larger or weightier toy.
Magic Wand Mini. The Magic Wand Mini is almost as powerful as its full-sized predecessor, easier to hold, and better for travel. Plus, it makes great practice for those not quite ready for the bigger Wand.
Romp Flip Wand. The Flip is budget friendly and super cute. What more could you ask for in a beginner wand? Plus, it’s fully waterproof for bathtime fun and whisper quiet.
Rocks Off Rush. Just turn on the vibration, wrap your hand around this toy, and stroke! The Rush is made from textured body-safe silicone and is ergonomically designed for a customizable fit.
Tenga Flip Zero Series. These ultra-popular strokers feature intricate, densely-packed texture for intense stimulation and a flip-open case for easy cleaning and drying.
Tenga Geo Aqua. This budget-friendly buy is all-reward and no-risk. The Geo Aqua offers squishy suction, a customizable fit, and packaging that’s perfect for gifting. Plus, it’s easy to use and easy to clean, making it ideal for beginners.
Sex toy aficionados
When browsing for the more experienced folks on your shopping list, consider creative toys like interactive, wearable products or even fetish gear! Fetish gear can also make a great gag gift or fun present for the couple in your life.
Best app-controlled toys
We-Vibe Match. This couple's vibrator can be controlled with a remote during intercourse. It can also be operated using the We-Vibe app, which features different vibration settings, patterns, and custom sensations for a personalized experience.
OhMiBod Esca 2. Here’s an interactive sex toy that can be controlled by your partner from anywhere in the world. It also responds to virtual tipping for cam folks, and features an LED display for your partner to watch while you use the toy.
Lovense Domi 2. The Domi 2 is an app-controlled wand that can even be synced to the music on your phone! My gifting tip? Send this to your sweetie with a sexy playlist for them to vibe to.
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Best wearable vibrators
We-Vibe Moxie. This wearable vibe is quiet, powerful, and perfect for folks interested in discreet play. And of course, it comes with a remote control for hands-free fun.
The Wearable by Deia. Hands-free, remote-controlled, and worn during sex, the Wearable is a luxurious couple’s toy. It’s also made from silky-smooth silicone that feels fantastic to the touch.
We-Vibe Jive. This wearable toy focuses on the G-spot, making it ideal for those who prefer internal stimulation. It features over 10 preset vibration modes, plus the option to customize your own vibes!
Best fetish gear
Bondage Couture Rope. This silky woven rope is soft, versatile, and perfect for Shibari-style bondage. Choose from four colors, including my favorite, rose gold.
Full Bloom Rose Ball Gag. Gifting flowers is never a bad idea, and this beautiful ball gag is no exception.
Electra Playthings Cuffs. These gorgeous green cuffs are festive and sexy all at once. Pair them with the bright red Sei Mio Tyre Paddle for an extra Christmas-y color combination.
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Are They Single or Partnered?
Most sex toys can be enjoyed solo or with a partner, but some are designed specifically for one or the other. Let’s take a look at which pleasure products make the perfect gift for couples, throuples, and partnered dynamics of all kinds, and which are geared toward private self-pleasure.
Best gifts for partnered play
We-Vibe Date Night. If you have a favorite couple, gift them this Date Night set. It includes His & Hers vibrating toys — both of which are app-controlled — all wrapped up in pretty green packaging.
Fun Factory Blow & Glow. For that kind of White Elephant party, the Blow & Glow kit is a guaranteed hit. It includes everything you need for some old-fashioned oral fun, and comes in a sparkly box that’s perfect for gifting.
Lelo Indulge Me Pleasure Set. This intimate set combines three gifts in one kit: a silky blindfold, feather teaser, and Lelo’s most popular couple’s toy, the Noa. The packaging is not only giftable, it’s sturdy and reusable too!
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Best gifts for solo play
Lovense Gush. The aptly-named Gush provides textured stimulation and hands-free penis stroking. The Gush is fully adjustable and app-controlled, making it a fantastic interactive toy for solo play.
Le Wand Petite Rainbow Ombre. Doesn’t this toy just sound pretty? Well, it is! This sparkly, colorful vibrating wand makes a perfect gift for pleasure-seekers who love everything girly and glittery.
Njoy Fun Wand. This gleaming stainless steel beauty comes packaged in a pink, satin-lined box. Its hard material and curved design offer very pleasurable G or P-spot stimulation, making it a great gift for all genders.
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Adult Gift Ideas for Everyone on Your List
We're nearing the end of my shopping guide to adult toys, but before you go, let's look at a few more gift ideas!
The budget-conscious buyer
You don’t need to break the bank to give the gift of pleasure. Our 60 under $60 collection features — you guessed it — 60 fabulous sex toys under $60 bucks.
The married couple
If your buddies just got hitched, get them a luxuriously romantic sex toy like the Lelo Tiani, a couple's vibrator that's ringed in 24K gold.
The rad roommate
If you share a special bond with your housemate, gift them a quiet toy that can’t be heard even through thin walls. The Dame Pom, a gender-inclusive and whisper-quiet vibrator for all bodies, is a perfect pick.
The cherished cousin
Got an exceptional cousin or someone you've known so long that you call them your cousin even though you're not related? They deserve some lube that's as smooth as they are. Try Naked Silk for a hybrid lube with a realistic feel, or Pjur Original for a silicone lube that never dries out.
The close co-worker
Want an unforgettable gift for a wife-in-waiting? Get the bride-to-be an air pressure/suction toy. Trust me on this one.
Don’t see what you’re looking for on this list? Feel free to reach out to me on Instagram, or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org for a personalized recommendation. Happy gifting !