From vibrators and strokers to books and bondage gear, adult products can make the perfect sexy gesture for Valentine's Day. But with so many toys on the market, how do you decide which pleasure products to get the lovers in your life?
Don't worry, I'm here to help! In this shopping guide, I present my favorite sex toys for Valentine’s Day, along with expert tips for picking the right gift for your sweetie.
How To Gift Sex Toys For Valentine's Day
When shopping for the perfect intimate gift, there are two main things to consider: what is the giftee's experience with sex toys, and how long have you been together? The answers to these questions help determine which pleasure products are sure to be a hit and which might miss the mark.
What is their experience level?
If your Valentine has never used a sex toy before, you might want to prioritize beginner-friendly options that won't feel too advanced or intimidating. On the other hand, you probably want to impress them if they've been around the self-pleasure block!
To help you in your search, let's look at the best toys for sex toy newbies and veterans alike.
My Valentine is a sex toy beginner
If your Valentine is new to the world of sex toys, it's often best to start with easy-to-use fan favorites. Clitoral stimulators like vibrators and air pressure toys are typically a safe bet for those with a vulva, while a stroker can be the perfect starter toy for penis-owners.
Best bullet vibrators
Doxy Bullet. Petite, pretty, and powerful, this bullet packs a very pleasurable punch. Plus, it comes in a festive rose gold color that's perfect for Cupid's favorite holiday.
We-Vibe Tango X. This gift-worthy bullet is sleek, quiet, rumbly, and bright red for Valentine's Day. It's also fully waterproof for any jacuzzi action you may have in mind.
Le Wand Vibrating Necklace. This gorgeous piece of sex toy jewelry deserves its own category, but I'm putting it with the bullets because it's similarly designed for orgasms on the go. Its slim, shimmering style makes it the perfect Valentine's Day gift.
Best vibrating wands
Femme Funn Ultra Wand Mini. With nearly all the power of its full-sized predecessor, this mini version of the Femme Funn favorite is perfect for beginners. It's completely wrapped in body-safe silicone, which means it's fully waterproof and submersible.
The Wand by Deia. This vibrating wand is easy to hold and slip between bodies during partnered play. It comes in the brand's signature navy color (a welcome departure from pink and purple!), and features luxurious packaging perfect for gifting.
Doxy Die Cast 3R Tiger Print. Let your wild thing know they make your heart sing with this stunning tiger-printed power wand. Remember: beginner friendly doesn't always mean gentle, so if your lover likes super strong stimulation, you're in luck. It (literally doesn't get any stronger than this.
Best air pressure toys
Satisfyer Cutie Heart. A pulsating air pressure toy shaped like a heart — what more could you ask for in a Valentine's Day gift? Winner of the 2022 Red Dot Design Award, this Cutie pulls double-duty as a vibrator, too.
Romp Rose. The Romp Rose is pretty, pink, and fits in the palm of your hand. But don't be fooled by it's petite size — there's some powerful suction within these petals!
Womanizer Starlet 3. With a variety of intensity settings and an easy to hold design, the Starlet 3 is great for air pressure newbies. It's offered in lots of fun colors, and is fully waterproof to boot!
Best penis strokers
Arcwave Pow. Suction control, dual entry, and a deliciously textured internal sleeve makes this penis toy a perfect fit for beginners. Plus, its motor-free design is quiet and easy to use.
VUSH Sol Vibrating Stroker. This bright and sunny stroker makes a great addition to partnered play and solo sessions. Its open-ended structure makes it easy to stimulate different areas of the penis or testicles (and makes it easier to clean too!).
Tenga Flip Zero Gravity. If you want to get your Valentine the penis toy everybody's buzzing about, here it is. This best-selling stroker is super stimulating for penises of all sizes, and flips open for easy cleaning.
My Valentine is a sex toy aficionado
If your Valentine knows their way around a sex toy shop, you'll probably want to explore more advanced products like interactive couples toys, wearable vibrators, or fetish gear.
Best wearable vibrators
The Wearable by Deia. Aptly named, this toy is the wearable couple's vibe, especially for those who like to switch positions mid-play. Its sleek, flexible design keeps it secure while you roll around, and the external stimulator hugs the vulva perfectly.
Lelo Tiani 2. Looking for something a little luxurious? The Tiani 2 is sumptuously smooth to the touch and features the brand's exclusive SenseMotion technology for intuitive pleasure. Plus, it's just gorgeous!
Dame Eva. This wearable vibe has two flexible arms that tuck under the labia to shower consistent stimulation on the clitoris. The Eva is great for all couples, but is a particularly good toy for slipping between vulvas in my experience!
Best app-controlled toys
Lovense Gush. From one of the top brands in app-controlled toys comes the Gush, a hands-free penis stroker made from velvety soft silicone. Let your lover control it from across the country, or across the room.
We-Vibe Sync 2. The We-Vibe Sync 2 is similar to the Chorus in that it's a wearable couple's vibrator that simultaneously stimulates the penis, clitoris, and G-spot. But the Sync has a wider range of motion and presses more lightly on the clitoris — two nice perks for larger anatomies or more sensitive folks.
Lovense Flexer. Looking for a way to spice up your Valentine's dinner date? Wear this dual-action panty vibe under your clothes to discreetly enjoy clitoral and G-spot massage while your lover watches.
Best BDSM toys
Crimson Heart Tip Leather Crop. If the Queen of Hearts had a riding crop, this is what it would look like. With over 2-feet in length and a red leather heart at the top, this is one romantic impact tool.
Leather Double Slapper. Pink suede and leather cut-out hearts — could you ask for a cuter impact toy? Plus, its double-slapper design makes an extra loud and satisfying thwack!
How long have you been together?
Everyone should feel free to explore any type of pleasure products that intrigues them. But the gift you get your brand new FWB might be different from the gift you pick for your wife of 15 years, right?
There's no rule that says you have to get your short-term lover something tamer or less expensive, but the type of toy you give should be influenced by how well you know them!
Let's look at the best sex toys to gift the Valentine you just started dating, as well as the perfect presents for your forever Valentine.
Best intimate gifts for new relationships
Mad Libs After Dark. Maybe you and your Valentine are not quite ready to do the deed yet, but you love to flirt and talk about it! Enter this fun and sexy game, perfect for new lovers.
Slow Sex Dry Shimmer Oil. Looking for a way to let your sweetie know you appreciate their body without gifting them a full-on sex toy? This shimmery body oil ought to do the trick! Invite them to wear it before date night, or offer to put it on for them.
100 Flirty and Dirty Sex Questions. The name says it all. This sexy deck of cards offers players a chance to discuss pleasure, learn each other's turn ons, and maybe put some thoughts into action.
Lelo Flickering Massage Candle. Nothing sets the mood quite like a romantic candle, especially one that doubles as massage oil. A gift like this gives you and your Valentine the option to use it in a sexually intimate way, or not.
Come As You Are by Dr. Emily Nagoski. What better message to send a new lover than "come as you are?" Sharing sex-ed literature can be a great way to let your new lover know that you're both informed and pleasure-positive. This book, in particular, is a bestselling game changer.
Heart Padlock Nipple Clamps. These heart-shaped nipple clamps are too cute! They're comfortable, adjustable, and make the perfect complementary gift to chocolate and roses.
Best intimate gifts for long-term relationships
Kinklab Jawbreaker Gag. Valentine's Day and candy go hand in hand (of course), but this jawbreaker gag brings V Day candy to a whole new level. Expert tip: tease your partner by licking the jawbreaker while it's strapped inside their mouth!
Suckle Rose Toy. Gifting your lover a long-stem rose for Valentine's Day is great, but presenting them with one that vibrates and provides clitoral suction is even better. This dual-action toy is a romantic way to give the gift of orgasm!
Fun Factory Oh Yeah, Right There Kit. Looking for "his and hers" vibrators? Well, here they are, wrapped in giftable packaging! This kit offers couples the ability to explore each other's bodies in fun new ways.
Le Wand Vibrating Massager. Winner of Cosmopolitan's Sexcellence Award for Most Powerful Sex Toy, this wand offers super strong vibration in a pretty pink package. Plus, it's made from high-quality, body-safe materials that are built to last.
Happy Valentine’s Day shopping, everyone! If you have questions along the way, or need a personal recommendation, remember you can always DM me on Instagram, or send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org. XOXO!