The next time you go downtown on your partner, you might want to break away from your go-to position and try the Kivin method. The Kivin method is an oral sex technique wherein the giver stimulates the receiver's vulva from a perpendicular angle rather than straight on.
Keep reading to find out how the Kivin method feels, how to do it, and why it can be a godsend for sensitive gals.
What Is The Kivin Method?
Most of us are familiar with the vertical method of cunnilingus. The bodies of both the giver and receiver lie in the same direction, but the mouth and vulva are situated in opposite directions. The Kivin method changes all that.
With the Kivin method, you come at the V from a perpendicular angle. I don't mean just tilting your head to the side, but moving your entire body in that direction. And believe me when I say that it's a revelation.
How Does The Kivin Method Feel?
It might not seem as if a simple change of position could make cunnilingus feel so, well, new. After all, you're still using the same lips and tongue, right? But when it comes to sex, a little shift this way or that can make all the difference.
In addition to giving the receiver a new angle of stimulation, the Kivin method allows the giver to access more of the vulva, labia, and perineum (the sensitive area between the genitals and the anus) than other methods.
The clitoris has an abundance of nerve endings, which can make it ultra-sensitive to pressure and intense stimulation. When the tongue comes at the clitoris from the side, as it does with the Kivin method, the receiver is less likely to feel overstimulated or uncomfortable. And any different sensation can be exciting, too.
In short, the Kivin method feels like the best of oral sex — warm, wet, soft, and stimulating — without the head-on force that can make some receivers want to squirm away.
Why Should I Try The Kivin Method?
Here are 3 reasons why the Kivin method might just blow your mind — and hers, too.
It stimulates a wider area of the clitoris
Because the mouth and vulva are both (in essence) facing the same direction, the Kivin method can help the giver cover more ground and stimulate a wider area of the vulva. Areas that are an afterthought or tougher to access with standard oral are in easy reach when Kivin's in the house.
It keeps the body guessing
The Kivin method switches up familiar sensations by delivering a unique, side to side sensation. Switching up your usual routine can be a fantastic way to keep your body guessing, keep you from becoming bored or desensitized, and make orgasm more powerful and easier to come by.
It’s easier to use toys
The Kivin method allows for a wider range of motion for your arms and shoulders, making it a cinch to wield toys in addition to your tongue. You can try a dildo or vibrator for G-spot massage, a clitoral stimulator like an air pressure toy, or a lay-on vibe to pleasure the vulva while you commune with the clitoris.
For more toy and accessory ideas, check out Best Toys For Oral Pleasure
How To Perform The Kivin Method
The Kivin method may sound simple enough, but there are a few tips and tricks that can make it more pleasurable for all involved.
Assume the position
The receiver should lie on their back, both legs straight out or with one leg raised for easy access. The giver should lie on their stomach at a perpendicular angle to the vulva. Any and all variations of the above are encouraged, as long as you and your partner are comfortable.
If you find performing oral sex on your stomach awkward, try kneeling beside the bed or sofa in a more upright position, or wedge a pillow under your body to take pressure off your neck.
Don't be afraid to experiment
Listen to your partner's feedback and feel free to get creative. It may be more difficult to penetrate your partner with your tongue when you're in Kivin mode, but the vulva, clitoris, and labia will be your playground.
Try putting your mouth just above your partner's body and letting your warm breath serve as Act 1. Then use your tongue to gently explore every nook and cranny available to you before you finally go to town on the clitoris.
Suck lightly on the labia, kiss from clitoral hood to vaginal entrance, and flicker your tongue up and down and from side to side. Let your imagination and your mouth run wild.
Go north — or south
The Kivin method makes it easy to explore areas other than the vulva with your tongue and fingers. Visit the perineum, inner thighs, anus, and any other spots that are sensitive for your partner.
While you ravish the vulva, try a vibrator on the nipples, a feather teaser on the hips and stomach, or a light stroking of the tops of the feet. Remember, the entire body can be an erogenous zone. Don't be afraid to think outside the box.
Talk before and after
Get the go-ahead from your partner before you try the Kivin method. As with all things sex-related, communication and consent are key to pleasure.
Once you give it a shot, have an intimate conversation about likes, dislikes, and what you're excited to try next time. Don't hesitate to improvise and make the Kivin method your own. Like different intercourse positions, it can be a one-time thing or a favorite you keep on regular rotation.